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But there’s a side to you that i never knew, never knew…

November 6, 2011
“The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own.  You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president.  You realize that you control your own destiny.”  -Albert Ellis
“Any fool can try to defend his mistakes – and most fools do – but it gives one a feeling of nobility to admit one’s mistakes. By fighting, you never get enough, but by yielding, you get more than you expected.”-Lawrence G. Lovasik

 Good afternoon SQers! I hope the time change  has not messed with your schedule too much. Hopefully, it has you feeling more energized than usual (at least that’s what I hear theoretically it is supposed to do). How were all of our weekends? I just had a nice weekend at home with the family so I am feeling incredibly stuffed from all the good food and otherwise doing well.  The inspiration for this week’s post came from my lovely thoughts and an interesting conversation I had this week. 

       Being a kid is fantastic.  Nothing gets you down other than not being able to play outside and too much homework. During our teenage years, we are quick to hide our childish tendencies in exchange for anything that we hope will make us seem more mature faster. Then we find once we reach adulthood that it is not as glamorous as it once appeared. It comes up with responsibilities, obligations, stress and serious consequences.  It is then we look with nostalgia upon our more carefree days and long to do anything to go back. 

        Unfortunately, part of growing up means accepting the change in the stages as bittersweet as they might be. Maturing can be the hardest transition to make no matter what age it is at.  To me, one of the most telltale signs of growing up is how your perspective of mistakes change. It is not a perspective that changes easily and takes time to cultivate. We recognize that our mistakes are our own. Not something we can blame on our parents’, a sibling, a friend, a professor, a boss or just plain circumstance. We are active architects in our own life and we sculpt the paths we hope to follow in terms of our hopes and dreams. And in not so good times, we are also to blame for making choices that allow that to happen. 
       It can be easy when things go wrong to displace our guilt on someone else, but that is nothing other than glorified excuse making. You know deep down what actually took place and who is to blame. Most times, it is when you know that the choice was in your control that you tend to joke, shirk it off and downplay its significance.  What you should be doing is owning up to it and holding yourself responsible.  Spend the time reflecting on how things could have gone differently, apologizing to those you hurt and accepting the consequences of your actions. 
Easier said than done right? As with most things I post about yeah it is. But pose the challenge to yourself because as the Lovasik quote suggests doing so will give you more than you bargained for.  
That’s all for now. Have a marvelous week!
See you next Sunday,
❤ SQ
2 Comments leave one →
  1. Anonymous permalink
    November 17, 2011 12:05 pm

    Made me think of all the volumes i should have written.

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