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Where’s your will to be weird?

June 26, 2011
  • Title Inspiration: “Where’s your will to be weird?”-Jim Morrison

“Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.”-John Jakes

“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.”-e.e  cummings

Good afternoon SQers! June is almost all done which seems strange because it went by so quickly. Oh well, on to July I guess.

There’s so much pressure in society and it comes from everything. Media, fashion, friends, school, work,  sports and music are all contributing factors. They encourage us to conform to fit the bill of what happens to be popular and revered at the moment. To dress, act, speak a certain way and goes as far to regulate our interests.  I have gone out on certain days and just been amazed by how much we all look the same and try to be the same.  Fundamentally, as humans we all strive to achieve the same things: happiness, love and success. However, as different individuals our path to attain those ideals  naturally will not ever be the same.

As children, we are always told to be ourselves and unique. The older we get the more we seem to forget that. We all have quirks. Little things that we feel compelled to do that might seem strange to other people. Our quirks, interests and passions are what make each of us as unique as a snowflake (as cheesy as that sounds). Yet for some reason, we try to repress those quirks in the hopes of being loved, well-liked and revered. We can’t be blamed for wanting those things. ..we’re only human. But is it worth to trade in all of our quirks for widespread acceptance? Is it more valuable to be truly loved by a few or adored by the masses?

In my opinion, there’s no way it is.  Your individuality, your calling and the unique fingerprint you hope to leave on this world are based on your passions and who you are as a person. By following the crowd and conforming, you get nowhere fast, ending up another face in a gray blob crowd. Embrace your quirks & passions and listen to life when it tries to help you find your calling.

Up until this point, this whole thing might have sounded a little cheesy and gimmicky. Do I believe that everyone is special? Yes. We all have unique backgrounds and events which shape us into the person we are. But ladies and gentlemen, you have a choice…you can stay true to who you are or pretend to be someone else simply because you think that with that comes more respect and admiration. People that I believe are worthy of my respect are the people who have the courage to stick to their guns and ultimately stay true to themselves. I don’t particularly care for fake people and I think most people would agree with me. If love and being liked is what you’re worried about…newsflash: not everyone is going to like you. There is no rule that says they have to and it is better that way. Rather than being adored under false pretenses for someone people think you are, it is far better to be truly loved by people who know all of you: the good, the bad and the not so pretty versions.  When you find that person/those people, I promise you it will be worth it. 

So maybe don’t eat worms like you used to as a child, but listen to classical music if you enjoy it. Read books that inspire you and force you to think. Wear whatever makes you feel like a million bucks. Say what you mean and believe what aligns with your moral compass. Don’t hide your quirks….wear them openly.

That’s all for now. Have a great week!

See you next Sunday,

❤ SQ

2 Comments leave one →
  1. Barbara Rodgers permalink
    June 29, 2011 7:43 am

    Well said! I can’t remember the exact words, but in the movie “Good Will Hunting,” Sean, the therapist, explains to Will, the troubled kid, that finding a mate to share your life with involves finding someone who you feel comfortable sharing your quirks with. And comfortable living with theirs. I think being true to oneself gets easier the older we get. For some reason it becomes more important to be comfortable in our own skin than to fit into a peer group.

    • June 30, 2011 4:50 pm

      good thought barbara.
      i think it really is the key to finding a mate. a healthy, successful relationship can’t be based on false pretenses. it does seem to get easier in age maybe because we realize with age just how similar everyone around us is?
      thank you for commenting as always!

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