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Guilty as charged

May 22, 2011
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“Guilt is a rope that wears thin.”-Ayn Rynd

“I was always fraught with guilt, and it’s such a waste of an emotion. It keeps you out of the moment of being where you are.”-Kyra Sedgwick

      Good afternoon SQers! Hope you all had excellent weeks.  To all my American readers, I hope you are enjoying your Memorial Day weekend! This week was a whole mix of emotions for me, but it ended on a good note.  The subject of this Sunday’s post is one of the emotions I had the unpleasant joy of dealing with this week.
      Guilt put simply just sucks. It is one of the worst emotions to feel and to hold onto.  It is corrosive enough to eat away at your insides sometimes bringing its good friend grief along with it.  However, we all feel it at one point or another.  We feel it for a multitude of reasons whether it is over a loss or plain old regrets.  As an emotion it has its worth sometimes.  It binds us to our past and forces us to reflect. Sometimes it can help us see the error in our ways and correct them. Other times we feel guilt and it is futile. What we feel guilty over is either beyond our control or something so minuscule that it is not worth our time. Half the trouble with guilt is making that very distinction. What should we feel guilty about? Everything that didn’t go according to plan? That would be extremely exhausting because we would expend all of our energy fraught over guilt, grief and worry..subsequently missing out on all of the other positive emotions life has to offer. Never? Not the right path either because we would all become arrogant, pompous and believe every decision/feeling we have had been right. We wouldn’t learn or reflect about our past which might sound like an amazing consequence at first, but we wouldn’t learn from our mistakes either.
       The question still remains…how do we decide what is worth being guilty over? The best rule of thumb to deciding what is worth being guilty over is to evaluate that within the context of your personal values. If what you did or said deviated from your personal set of values then yes it is worth being guilty over. You have to act steered by your own moral compass and if something causes you to change that then maybe it is worth a second look. Your guilt should not be based on what other people expect think of you. Ultimately, what they think doesn’t matter. You are your own judge and at the end of the day you have to hold yourself responsible for being the kind of person you strive to be. Take charge of your own life.  Don’t let guilt take the reins and eat away at your thoughts. Listen to the guilt and what it’s telling you whether that is to reevaluate certain things and to ignore other things. Most importantly, like the Sedgwick quote…do not let guilt keep you from appreciating & noticing what is in the present.
That’s all for now. Have a fantastic guilt-free week!
See you next Sunday, 
❤ SQ
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