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Till it happens to you

March 6, 2011
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“How a person masters his fate is more important than what his fate is.”- Karl Wilhelm von Humboldt

“Fate is like a strange, unpopular restaurant, filled with odd waiters who bring you things you never asked for and don’t always like.”-Lemony Snicket

Good afternoon SQers!  Hope you all have had an excellent couple of weeks.  In the last couple weeks I asked myself quite a bit among other things…”Why me?” and “What have I done to deserve this?” . What I have come to realize is that both of those questions are more pointless and rhetorical than anything else.  There is no right, clear-cut answer and these questions are fundamentally the wrong questions to be asking.

I think our fate is something we exercise little control over. There are certain decisions we make such as the decisions to get up, to stay in bed, to go out, to turn left, to turn right, what we eat and what we choose to get involved in. However, just when we think we have some feeble grasp of control over our lives, fate throws us a fastball and shows us just how wrong we are.

That raises the question how it is decided who has to go through bad experiences. Is there some breakdown based on how virtuous and good you have been?  I think we on the whole we like to believe that there is. However, experience seems to speak to the contrary. I have seen some of the best people I know go through some of the worst things.  It really is not fair or even justified.  We can spend all day trying to figure out fate’s mechanism and why certain things happen to us, but be just as lost as we were when we started.

Since we cannot control what happens to us and when it happens, all we are let with is the unappealing task of trying to handle what happens to us. Like the Humboldt quote says, what differentiates us is not what happens to us, but how we deal with the consequences. On either extreme we can choose to buckle under the gravity of what we are forced to deal with or rise to the occasion and strengthen ourselves in the process. Choosing to face and take on what is thrown our way definitely is not easy especially when we can’t even make sense of why it may have happened.  However, much later we may be able to see the importance and the influence that the event might have subsequently had on the rest of our lives. It may not have been positive at the time, but in the larger scheme of things it may have been a personal turning point.

Whatever fate decides to throw at you now or in the future, accept it for what it is and try to deal with it in the best way you know how. Instead of asking yourself,  “why me” maybe ask yourself “why not me?”. Even though you may not see it now, whatever has happened will change you and make you into the person you were meant to be.

That’s all for now. Have a great week!

See you next Sunday,

❤ SQ


6 Comments leave one →
  1. March 7, 2011 5:06 pm

    I have started to look at life a little differently lately…instead of wondering what life (or fate) is going to throw at me next, I am working on shifting my belief system to seeing that all the universe puts in front of me is a challenge to test my ability to stay calm and positive. Each challenge will slowly unwind itself into flowering into a growth that brings me closer to my highest potential. This has been shown to me in situations of close loved ones dieing, with life-threatening situations, and with painful changes in important relationships.

    I applaud you on seeing the positive in your red sky morning. (:

    • March 7, 2011 8:29 pm

      it’s a hard change to make, but i’m hoping it is something that gets easier with time.
      that is a beautiful way of starting to see things shanie.
      thank you for sharing!

  2. March 8, 2011 5:39 am

    I like the humour in the quote:
    “Fate is like a strange, unpopular restaurant, filled with odd waiters who bring you things you never asked for and don’t always like.”-Lemony Snicket

    and because I love and tend to over analyze them, I came up with my personal version of the restaurant analogy:
    “Fate is like a popular restaurant, filled with waiters who bring you things you never asked for and don’t always like but are always interesting”

    and these restaurants have the advantage of existing 🙂

    • March 8, 2011 2:53 pm

      i also found the humor pretty entertaining. i was drawn to the lemony snicket quote because i have read some of his writing in the past and i know he is a very sarcastic and captivating writer. i like your personal version of the quote and i agree that the things you are brought are always interesting.
      thank you for commenting!

  3. March 8, 2011 12:46 pm

    I have been following the same fact especially since the inception of this year…and very much believe now that I can not run from my fate but yeah I can still make efforts so as to make my life yielding and ecstatic for myself….whatever happen,s happens for a reason…which we are unknown to initially and with the course of time we realise (rather I have realised) that it had something gud in store for me…the key word here is “something”. Truly significant point to ponder is how we master our destiny.
    Thanks for the lovely writeup!
    wish you pink days ahead 🙂

    • March 8, 2011 2:54 pm

      you are absolutely right that the key word is “something”. i wish that there was a way of seeing into the future and knowing what that something is.
      thank you for commenting and the kind wishes!

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