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And our scars remind us, that the past is real

June 13, 2010
  • Title Inspiring Song: “Scars”-Papa Roach
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“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.”-Kahlil Gibran

“One writes of scars healed, a loose parallel to the pathology of the skin, but there is no such thing in the life of an individual. There are open wounds, shrunk sometimes to the size of a pin-prick but wounds still. The marks of suffering are more comparable to the loss of a finger, or the sight of an eye. We may not miss them, either, for one minute in a year, but if we should there is nothing to be done about it.”-F. Scott Fitzgerald

Good afternoon SQ readers! I know I usually post earlier, so sorry for the delay. For the first time in a long time, I actually was not at all sure what to write for this week’s post, but looking back upon things that have happened to me this week I arrived at this one.

I am sure we all know at least one person in our lives who have one scar that is actually pretty cool(or has a cool story) rather than an unsightly scar with a very depressing story behind it. A scar in its simplest manifestation is an attempt on the part of our skin to heal and protect itself after it has been wounded and injured. The scar as the Fitzgerald quote alludes to has evolved into being a metaphor for the healing and recovery process. He also very correctly notes that these scars never fully disappear, though they may shrink in size and appearance they are a part of our being and past.

I have a theory about the healing process. I think that it is often when we think we have healed and moved past the horrors of our past that they tend to reappear. After we have distanced ourself from part of our past and buried the painful memories, the sudden reappearance and reminder can throw us off-balance. Why should we let ourselves get thrown off-balance?

Our scars are real just as real as the experiences and the stories that caused them. They remind us of our past, our mistakes, our failures and just as importantly how far we’ve come and how much we’ve grown. As much as want to they never disappear. So if they are going to be around forever why hide them? We should not have to. Accept that your scars are a part of your past and embrace the growth you have experienced as a result. Your scars are beautiful and part of what make you imperfectly perfect.

That’s all for now. Have a great week!

❤ SQ

P.S. I think I might be taking a break with SQ so it might be a couple weeks before a new post comes. Read some old posts in the meantime and I will be back before you know it 🙂

6 Comments leave one →
  1. June 14, 2010 10:42 am

    I’m kind of a klutz, so it’s surprising I don’t have more scars. But I love this idea that our scars tell our story. They remind us of great times or funny situations, hopefully more so than painful accidents.

    This makes me think about aging. Our bodies bear scars – and wrinkles and stretch marks and sun spots – that we can try to prevent using all kinds of beauty products, or we can embrace them as a reflection of the life we’ve lived. I’m trying to embrace them – it isn’t easy!

    • June 14, 2010 12:54 pm

      yeah it isn’t always easy to embrace those scars, but i’m working on doing the same
      i also find it funny how much time we spend like you said with beauty products trying to cover it all up when really our scars are a part of us and never truly fade
      thank you for commenting eva!

  2. unclerave permalink
    June 14, 2010 4:03 pm

    Emotional scars never completely heal, as well. Of course there are numerous types of emotional scars, but the ones that can linger the longest, and effect ones entire life, are the scars of bullying. Most people can get past minor bullying, but the scars from a prolonged and repeated bullying can run dangerously deep. We should not have to rely on our schools to “raise” our kids, but they need to keep a keen eye out for bullying, and stress tolerance and acceptance of all kinds of people. There have been far too many Columbines and VA Techs, and Fort Hood killings. It invariably starts with these issues in childhood.

    • June 14, 2010 8:06 pm

      yeah i was thinking of physical scars as a symbol of the emotional scars that we experience.
      i agree maybe if we kept a keen eye out like you said we could prevent more of those awful tragedies from occuring
      thank you for commenting!

  3. Beth permalink
    December 7, 2010 4:56 am

    “Scars do not form on the dying, they say “I survived” … Little Bee , Chris Cleave = love this quote .. no matter if the scars are physical or emotional … they are all a poignant reminder that we have come through the strife. May we all survive our scars in life

    • December 7, 2010 8:51 pm

      great quote beth. yes i hope we all survive the scars in our lives as well
      thank you for commenting!

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